We’ve all been on the receiving end of unrequested advice. Our response says a lot about us. Here are 3 ways to respond to such advice.
One way is to be offended and react with a prideful “I don’t need your help. I’ve got this.” A second way to respond is to be so insecure that you take everyone’s advice and act on it immediately because surely they all know more than you.
Neither of those will be useful to you. The third way to respond is to listen to what is being said with an open mind and heart and then decide if it is the wise thing to do.
Recently I heard a talk by Andy Stanley called Ask It. It was about learning to ask this question: “In light of my past experience, my current circumstances and my future hopes and dreams, what is the wise thing for me to do?”
If we approach every decision and lifestyle choice with that question we would make far fewer dumb decisions. Plain and simple. That one question would make us wiser instantly.
So what about all that advice we didn’t ask for? If we can learn to ask the question we can filter out what is good from all the rest. And we should remember, most people in our lives give us advice because they care about us. If we react with pride we will miss the blessing God may be trying to show us. And, if we act without wisdom, just following others advice blindly, we are being foolish.
So, the best method I’ve found is to listen, consider and then act.
The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to advice. – Proverbs 12:15 (ESV
Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety– Proverbs 11:14 (ESV)